Text: "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.... Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh" (Genesis 2:18, 24 KJV); Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12; Luke 14:18-32.
Marriage is a divine institution ordained by God to fulfill a divine purpose. Before the institution of marriage, God made necessary preparation for man in order to enjoy the very best and fulfill its purpose.
But in various segments of society today, many get into this sacred institution unprepared, bringing confusion into many lives and society at large. Ironically, the young people wishing to get into marriage do not even know the meaning, purpose, and necessary preparations before they embark on it; this has led to broken homes in our society today.
"Marriage is about the only institution for which no spare parts are provided. You replace worn-out or defective parts of an engine with spare parts, but there is no such thing in marriage. It has no reverse gear either." — Anonymous
Marriage is the most solemn, sacred, and serious union into which people enter. It is sacred because it is established by God Himself. Serious because it binds the man and woman together in a relationship so close and intimate that their entire future will be profoundly influenced by it — until death do them part. God hates divorce. The sacredness and sanctity of marriage is expressed in the marriage vows themselves.
"Marriage is the relationship between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual, and the obligation reciprocal." — Louis K. Anspacher
"A good marriage is not a contract between two persons but a sacred covenant between three. Too often Christ is never invited to the wedding and finds no room in the home. Why? Because we have misrepresented Him and forgotten His joyful outlook on life." — Donald T. Kauffman
"Even if marriages are made in heaven, man has to be responsible for the maintenance." — Kroebler News
It doesn’t pay to be a fool. Wisdom is safety. Wisdom is insurance. Fools rush into danger eyes wide open and get crushed in the grips of death. The wise sight danger afar and duck into safety.
To seek divine knowledge and wisdom, you must first recognize your need for it. To become a fool? Just shun knowledge, snort at wisdom—and you’ll get there in no time. But wisdom is hard-earned. Hear God:
“If thou incline thine ear unto wisdom and apply thine heart unto understanding; if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding; if thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures—then shalt thou understand...” (Proverbs 2:1-5 KJV)
Wisdom carries a price tag; but its product is wonder. Out of the womb of wisdom, wonders are born. The Word will make you wise unto salvation and holiness. Knowledge and wisdom beckon every season—hear them, see them, seize them—and use them in your marriage.
You can build a house with your hands, but to build a home, you need God’s help—He is the Architect and the Founder of marriage.
I am providing you with Biblical Tools & Manuals you need right now to transform your marriage, stay spiritually fit on earth, and prepare for the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
The Manuals and Tools reveal:
- Experiencing genuine Salvation of God & walking in Holiness of life with Christ
- Partnership & Planning with God
- The Weapons of Our Warfare
- Secrets of a Happy Home
- For the Newly Wedded: Challenges of Marital Life & Building a Radiant Palace for the King
- Pillars and Caterpillars of a Godly Family
- Seventy times seven Lifestyle in the Family
- Communication Breakdown: Problems, Panacea, and Prospects
- Discover to Recover
- Coping with a Husband or Wife Who Strays
- Infidelity: Causes, Consequences, and Cures
- Purity, Prayer, and Love: Foundations of a Happy Home
- Goal Setting and Harmonisation: Processes and Principles
- Mating and the Christian Life
- Planned Parenthood: The Christian Options
- Child Training in the Christian Family
- Biblical Principles on Child Training and Discipline
- Guiding Adolescents through a Misguided World
- Salvaging & Moulding Wayward Children in the Family
- Binding the Strongman to Set the Family Free
- Divine Promises for the Barren: Sing, O Barren, for You Shall Break Forth!
- Delay is Not Denial
- Faith and Faithfulness in Service While Waiting
- ...and many more.
Dearly Beloved,
Our God, the Creator of all things, the Founder and Perfect Architect, has something to offer your home. He is the perfect HOME BUILDER. He wants to build yours today—solidly—on a foundation which no amount of demons in hell or storms of life can pull down. No way!
The Devil and his cohorts are big liars; you are going to win the battle with God on your side.
No matter what situation your marriage is in—even if you're on the verge of divorce—this message is for you. If you’re willing to give God a chance (who happens to be the Architect and Founder of marriage), you’ll be amazed to see your marriage transformed to suit His divine purpose on earth.
Remember that—
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Human effort alone cannot make the dreamer achieve his dreams. The Master Architect and Engineer of a blessed home is Jesus.
"Except the Lord builds the house, they labour in vain that build it..." (Psalm 127:1) - Physical achievements, great wealth, comfortable furniture, or large bank accounts are no guarantees for a blessed home. A blessed home is one whose source of peace, joy, and fulfillment is Jesus.
- The best partner to tell your fears, hurts, frustrations, tears, and needs—someone who listens with patience and love—is your spouse.
- The bliss of a blessed home is your making. Think of your home like an umbrella exposed to all sorts of weather. Its strength determines how well it handles life’s storms. Let Jesus be the umbrella of your home.
- A blessed home is one with structured, harmonized goals and dreams, united in a family vision. When there’s unity, success will follow in divine order.
It is not about:
- Giving in to everything your partner wants and demands
- Begging or pleading for mere chances
- Forcing your partner to admit their wrongs
If you are in Christ Jesus today, then you are not alone. The Architect of marriage is on your side. And with Him, "all things are possible".
Victory is sure for you in Jesus’ name!
With the rising trend of divorce even among Christians, my heart is deeply burdened. Men are rapidly removing the ancient landmarks of God—even faster than some so-called unbelievers. Yet, I have seen God work miracles in marriages that appeared beyond repair. Many couples have bounced back from what seemed like irreversible situations: unresolved conflicts, infidelity, lack of intimacy, constant arguments, communication breakdowns, busy schedules, issues with children, separations, and more.
Does any of this sound familiar? I strongly believe that with absolute trust in God, adherence to Biblical principles, Spirit-led counseling, and fervent prayer, **any marriage can be restored**—because God is still on the throne!
By God's grace and through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, I will instruct you on how to resolve your marriage problems and gain the relationship of your dreams. Forget all the worldly theories, philosophies, and ideas you've heard. **Biblical principles hold transforming power above them all**.
Don’t ever give up on your marriage! No matter what kind of problem you’re facing, there is an alternative to divorce or separation. In fact, you could soon be experiencing the relationship you’ve only dreamed of.
There is a word from God for every situation:
“He sent His word and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.”
(Psalm 107:20)
This Marriage Manual & Tools is Biblically inspired and revelatory. It is tried, tested, and trusted. It is divine, distilled, direct, definite, distinct, down-to-heart, and truly transforming.
God has a healing balm to polish, heal, and transform your marriage to suit His divine plan for your life
(Jeremiah 8:22;
Jeremiah 46:11).
I am praying for you and eagerly expect your testimony. God bless you!
COUPLES SHOULD PLEASE READ THE FOLLOWING MESSAGE:
GOD’S PLAN FOR THE FAMILY
Matthew 19:1–12
Husband and wife are the two human pillars upon which the home is built. Though co-equal in the sight of God—being “heirs together of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7)—God ordained the husband to be the head of the home.
Plan for the Husband: He plans not only for himself but for the physical, spiritual, and emotional needs of the family. He teaches, leads, prays, and provides. A Christian husband loves his wife as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially and unconditionally—not for what he can get, but because it's God's command. He never abuses or harms her.
Plan for the Wife: God expects her to joyfully recognize and accept her husband's headship. She is to be humble, obedient, meek, diligent, and dependable. Together, both husband and wife should model godliness, faithfulness, holiness, honesty, and love to their children.
God’s Provision: Marriage is God’s institution. He provides joy and happiness for the family. The man is to “leave” (not abandon) his parents and cleave to his wife as one flesh.
Common Problems and the Way Out: Divorce, remarriage, and polygamy are not God's will. Issues such as poverty, barrenness, in-law interference, or conflicts must never break the family. The husband is called to defend his wife at all times. Bitterness, nagging, unforgiveness, and strife must not find a home in your marriage.
Live sanctified lives together. Preserve unity and love. Encourage each other in the Christian walk (Proverbs 27:17) and train up your children in the way of the Lord (Proverbs 22:6).
2. AND FOR THE SINGLES... THERE IS NO REVERSE GEAR IN MARRIAGE FOR GOD'S CHILDREN.
GOD IS YOUR PERFECT MATCHMAKER!
CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER IN A GODLY WAY TO HAVE A BLESSED TASTE OF HEAVEN ON EARTH IN YOUR UNION – OH YES, IT’S POSSIBLE! GOD IS THE ONLY PERFECT MATCHMAKER.
DATING COULD BE DANGEROUS FOR YOU!
It doesn’t pay to be a fool. Wisdom is safety. Wisdom is insurance. Fools rush into danger with eyes wide open and get crushed in the grip of destruction. The wise see danger from afar and seek safety.
To reject divine knowledge is to embrace folly. Just shun wisdom and you’ll eventually become a typical fool. But wisdom is a treasure—it is hard-earned and highly valuable.
Hear God’s voice:
“If thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding; yea, if thou criest after knowledge... if thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures: Then shalt thou understand...”
(Proverbs 2:3–5)
Wisdom carries a price tag. But out of the womb of wisdom, wonders are born. The Word of God will make you wise unto salvation, holiness, and life choices—including marriage. Wisdom and knowledge beckon you. See them, seize them, and use them in your choice of a life partner.
It takes man's hand to build a house, but only God can build a true home. God remains our Perfect Matchmaker. Discover His secret today!
Dearly Beloved,
It has been said that the three most important events in a person’s life are: birth, marriage, and death. Of these, we have no control over the first or the last. But marriage—yes, we do have a choice!
Sadly, many allow nature or emotions to guide them, with little thought for the eternal consequences. It is extremely dangerous for a born-again Christian to plan marriage without God.
“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.”
(Proverbs 3:5)
“Delight thyself also in the Lord; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart.”
(Psalm 37:4–5)
Remember: not every man is an ideal husband, and not every woman is an ideal wife. Many Christians suffer in unhappy marriages because they disobeyed God’s clear command. In choosing a life partner, they allowed the flesh to rule instead of letting the Spirit lead.
“Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh... If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.” (Galatians 5:16, 25)
DATING COULD BE DANGEROUS! Many homes have collapsed as a result.
Most young people daydream about a happy home, but the road to such a future is filled with traps. Many got married based on physical attraction and romantic feelings that stir up sexual passion and blind judgment. Satan offers short-term thrills but hides long-term regrets and sorrow.
God, however, asks for restraint. If we obey, He rewards us with lasting joy and peace—with no regrets.
Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Trust God—His way is beautiful, and His will for your marriage is perfect. Not through lustful dating like the world promotes, but by divine leading.
I am providing you with Biblical Tools & Manuals you NEED to guide you to know whom to marry, God’s way. YES! God still speaks to His children today. He will speak to you too! Your marriage is your life.
It reveals:
- 1. Experiencing genuine salvation and walking in holiness of life with Christ
- 2. Partnering and planning with God
- 3. The weapons of our warfare
- 4. The wages of immorality vs. the dividends of chastity
- 5. Praying to know God’s will in marriage
- 6. Bridging the gap for God’s best in marriage
- 7. The Bible’s stance on inter-tribal and interdenominational unions
- 8. Breaking the chain of unequal yoke and worldliness in marriage
- 9. A blueprint for avoiding confusion in partner selection
- 10. Basis for spiritual and physical tests before marriage
- 11. Biblical principles for godly and challenging courtship
- 12. Building a happy, godly home—and much more
For Married Couples & Singles: Order These Marriage Manuals & Tools – Email me or write:
"Buy the truth and sell it not; also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding.”
– Proverbs 23:23
NOTE:
Believers in Christ, please—for Christ’s sake and for Heaven’s sake—remove not the ancient landmark of God in marriage.
Your marriage on earth will determine where you will spend eternity—either in Heaven with God, as you obey Him, or in Hell, if you choose your own way outside God’s Biblical standard. Marriage is a sacred institution established by God Himself, and we will all be judged by His Holy Word.
SINGLES, PLEASE READ THE MESSAGE BELOW:
GOD – OUR PERFECT MATCHMAKER
Genesis 2:18, 21–24; 1:27–28; Matthew 19:4–6; 1 Corinthians 11:8–12
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18)
This verse reveals the foundation of the institution of marriage. The Almighty God, being all-knowing, analyzed every aspect of man’s life—his assignment, his emotional and mental needs, and his destiny—and declared, “It is not good that man should be alone.”
Even though Adam was intelligent, there was no way he could provide a suitable helpmeet for himself. So, God caused a deep sleep to fall upon him and took the initiative to create Eve. This act of God shows that:
- God cares deeply for our completeness.
- God’s involvement in our marital life is essential and irreplaceable.
- God is the author and architect of true marital union.
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
Even when we are unaware or unconcerned, God is always mindful of what we need. He arranges things behind the scenes to bring the best into our lives. From the beginning, marriage was built upon a divine-human relationship.
That relationship remains critical today. Anyone desiring a successful and fulfilling marital life must partner with God from start to finish. Without God's involvement, no marriage can be what He truly designed it to be.
Written by Akinbowale Adewumi
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“Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it. …” (Psalm 127:1)
